It’s that time of year again where the whole world seems to be talking about love. Chocolates are on sale, roses are everywhere, and people are searching all over for their special Valentine.
In honor of this season of romance we decided to spend a little bit of time reflecting with our friends on not only what makes love sweet but what makes it good for us too
Does discount year-old candy excite you? Do things just taste better for you when they’re heart shaped?
To celebrate this season of pink tinsel and red taffeta, we’ve gotten some friends together to reflect on love–not only what makes it sweet, but what makes it GOOD, too.
Tiff Baira (she/her) @tiffbaira
“To me, healthy love is a love that doesn’t require you to change. There is no expectation of what or who you should be–you can simply show up every day as your authentic self. Healthy love celebrates who you and your partner are at your core, and your ability to share yourself with one another freely. Basically, it’s important to feel like a bad bitch every day and be with someone who knows you are too.”
Francis Dominic (he/him) @francisdominiic
“It’s when you’re on opposite sides of the room and still make eye contact with each other. It means having a solid foundation based in trust trust and communication–and laced with fun adventures throughout your relationship–and great sex.
Valentina Padilla (she/her) @sunflowervalentine
”Healthy love means patience, flexibility, and understanding. There is so much that changes and can go a different direction last minute, so being able to apply those three things to any circumstance will always allow you to love yourself and the action, moment or person.”
Chettino D/Angelo (he/him) @nyctranschett
“Healthy love for me is complete transparency. It’s having the willingness to acknowledge that sometimes I don’t like myself especially when times are hard and then doing whatever it takes to love upon mysHealthy love is constantly evolving to meet you where you’re at in real-time. It liberates you from the past, holds you in the present, and dispatches you into the future.elf through the hard times, which makes me feel so much more grateful for the love that’s present during the good times. I’ve found that writing self-love songs help.”
Janelle Mayo (she/her) @filipinogrndma
“I would say that healthy love to me means being able to build a strong relationship with someone that is rich and multidimensional and we help each other grow and they’re a part of what makes me whole. Wanting to hear someone’s thoughts and feelings and help them get through things–the same way they do to me.”
Mattie Mariposa (they/she/he) @mattiemariposa
“Healthy love is constantly evolving to meet you where you’re at in real-time. It liberates you from the past, holds you in the present, and dispatches you into the future.”