A few years ago, Cheyenne Gil asked me to write about why I prefer to keep my clothes on in photos. I didn’t have a clue what to say. It’s true though; I don’t like to share pictures of myself in only a swimsuit or underwear. I wouldn’t describe the way I dress as modest, […]
Category: Self-Love
One Black Girl to Another. / Lay Your Burdens Here. / I May Be the Goddess / Who Comes Through for You
She carries this weight. Our weight. Her troubles on her back. Alone. Black girl. I wish I could Take the weight off your Shoulders And destroy the world That forced its Burdens on your back. Not even giving Us the time to lay Them down at the Foot of the Gods They forced us to […]
It Makes Me Feel Nervous Going Around New York City Shouting Who I Am So Loudly (Which I Do Well Online and With Friends, but I Have Trouble Doing It With Strangers)
I have a hard time being taken care of by anyone, including myself. One particularly thorny piece of this deals with my hair. I’ve cut my own hair since I was 12 years old, except for two or three times when I got a professional relaxer and they trimmed it. This was pretty much forced […]
My Big Curly Hair Routine
It’s sort of unbelievable how long it’s taken me to write this, and it’s sort of not—I’ve legit been asked by hundreds of people people to share my “hair secrets.” But though I love my curly hair and haven’t taken a relaxer to it since before I was a teenager, I haven’t taken care great […]
If a Black Femme Dies and No One Is Around—
If a Black femme dies and no one is around— To commemorate her/their life To Avenge her/their death To Video record it To #FindOurGirls Start an entire political movement in her/their honor As we have done the same Does her/their/our/my Black Life Still Matter ? […]